In my previous articles and books, I have emphasized the importance of “recognition” in power relationships, especially when discussing communication, expectations, recognition, and porn blog. The “biggest fear” that adult fucks have repeatedly expressed to me is that they are isolated in the power relationship; that the porn blog relationship is happening in their head; that their partner tends to be indifferent to the power adultfucks relationship; and that they make the connection.
When this fear occurs, many adults test their porn blog partner’s resolve. They act crazy, become disrespectful, or overtly challenge the dominant partner. They seek attention but are not seeking attention. They try to force the dominant to show that they understand their position and intend to “use” it to enforce submission. This type of behavior is problematic in many ways because it weakens the authority of the dominant. Forcing the dominant to respond – a form of manipulation and openly challenging the dominant’s authority – is a direct rejection of the power relationship, which often leads to a “rock-bottom” deal. It’s a porn blog.
A few days ago, I was in a discussion where the topic of “praising” the submissive came up. Although the participants did not directly identify it, the main point of the discussion was mainly centered on the “Fear of Abandonment” porn blog. They mentioned the grumpy attitude that some adults take when they are not “appreciated”. They also refer to the naughty behavior of some adults when they feel that the dominant is not as enthusiastic as they would like. The idea was that praising the submissive when he does something for you is important to acknowledge his efforts and make him feel satisfied with his service; to encourage him to continue serving.
It’s fine to praise if it’s appropriate and deserved. However, I thought that praise was not the key ingredient, but rather the key, to showing the approval they were looking for. I would argue that the important thing is not to praise the submissive but rather to let the submissive know that you appreciate his efforts – acknowledging him from a dominant position and recognizing the submissive intent the submissive had in performing the act. This sends a clear and consistent message that you are in the dynamic, that you expect to benefit from it, and that you are interested in making their submission as good as possible for you.
To these people, I say there is a big difference porn blog praise and recognition. Praise doesn’t always have to be praise, it can be constructive… and still be very valid. Showing your submissive that you acknowledge their efforts to serve you helps reassure them that they are not alone in that effort – that the power dynamic is shared and important to both of you.
