Contrary to what we’re often led to believe, great adult sex doesn’t just happen magically. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or simply “seeing how things go with a particular lover,” the spark doesn’t just sustain over time. When it comes to adult sex, it often requires a lot of effort.
Here comes the solution. You and I both know that resolutions can be made at any time of the year, so stick to it. Sex as an adult can truly be life-changing. That being said, our collective will to change our lives seems to be relishing the notion of a new year, a fresh start. Understandable But this year, instead of “going to the gym more often” or “quitting chocolate”, why not work on making your adult sex life hotter than ever before? I’m not talking about pleasure techniques or specific adult sex here. Having a better sex life as an adult means working on different areas of your life, from sexual health to body confidence to intimate communication. Of course, as a bonus, you’ll have a better life everywhere, not just in the proverbial bedroom.
All of this sounds great, but if you’re not sure where to start, consider some annual resolutions applicable at any time of the year) that will help you improve your sex life as an adult. This isn’t cheesy. And even (especially) when you live with the person you love, you may need to schedule quality time to keep it together. Spontaneity and activities outside of your normal routine are at the heart of stimulating, intimate adult sex. Set aside an evening each week to dine with your loved one, play pool, try a new hobby, or simply stroll aimlessly down the street. You might be surprised (again) at how often one night magically leads to good love. If you’ve wanted to make some changes between the sheets, it might be time to try something new. If you have sexual desires that are not being met but that you can’t voice, find a way to voice them. Candles, massage oil, and bubble baths. Then maybe some time for sex or new positions or things you’ve never tried before or even masturbating in front of each other. Here are some good books on sex and sexuality that you can read together. Extend your openness to new things in other areas of your life too. Cook a new dish with your partner for the first time, go dancing, visit a new area of life, etc. This is usually exciting, so go along with it.
